Each week, we ask a daughter to give us an insight into their relationship with their mother. This week, we sat down with Natasha…which was handy because she was sitting beside us in Daughterhood HQ!
I love travelling with my mother. We’re lucky that since my twenties, when she came to Australia to backpack with me, we have gone on lots of trips together.
We visited my sisters who were living in Russia and Africa at the time,
and went on a trip to the Arctic last year, fulfilling a lifelong dream of hers. Our trips aren’t as numerous now as they used to be since my mother got sick.
We really enjoy cooking and we often try out new recipes together. Most of all, I love spending time with her chatting, having lunch , going for a stroll on the promenade in Salthill (Co Galway) or sitting in her back garden having a gin and tonic.
What characteristics do you share with your mother?
A love for life is definitely top of my list as we both have a sense of adventure particularly in our travels. She has a great sense of humour and we both love to laugh, which has definitely helped us to cope with her illness.
What do you wish you did more of with/for your mother?
Time and more time! It’s a constant challenge to find enough time to spend with her as, like most of us, my life is a busy one and she lives in Galway. In the last few years, climbing stairs is a challenge for her due to her illness so staying with me like she used to isn’t an option. I miss having her over to stay with me so I try and make up for it by visiting her in Galway more often and visiting her in my sister Sorcha’s house in Maynooth (Co Kildare) where she now spends weeks at a time during the winter months.
Where do you fall down as a daughter?
Sometimes I make promises that I don’t keep. The photos we took in the Arctic over a year ago and from our last trip to Lanzarote are still sitting in my phone. I promised to print out the best ones, frame them or put them in a photo book but that still hasn’t been done.
What do you wish you were better at?
I could be better at helping my mother organise dinner parties for her friends. She loves having people over but it takes a lot out of her. Making sure the house looks the way she wants it and cooking for them comes easy to me and is something I want to do more of in 2015.
My mother makes me feel…
Good about myself and accepts me for who I am.